My Anti New Year’s Resolution

An·ti /ˈan(t)ē,ˈanˌtī/ : “opposed to; against.”

New Year’s Resolution : “a promise to do something differently in the new year”

I do not wish to be constrained and/or restrained to goals that subconsciously seem unobtainable. I have tried the whole New Year’s Resolution thing for years. Go to gym more, eat better, have more me time, blah blah blah. These “resolutions” last all of two weeks. In 2019 I do not want to burden myself with that overwhelming stress of conquering all of these goals that I have made for myself. Also I never understood why we post and tell our New Year’s Resolutions on social media and to other people. Many fail to realize that this possibly makes those goals 10 times more difficult to reach because you put it out there that these goals must be achieved within that 12 month period.

It does not seem plausible for me to set goals when I have not dealt with my toxic and emotionally distressing habits that I have developed over the years. So no, this isn’t your typical New Year’s Resolution list this is the Anti New Year’s Resolution list. I still want to effect change in my upcoming year but I want to make those changes from within. This year I will focus on all of the negative habits that I developed that have hindered my growth thus far. I will make myself aware of their toxicity and kick these bad habits once and for all. These toxic habits and traits include:

  • Looking for others approval before making a decision
  • Allowing others opinions to determine how I perceive myself
  • Loving someone more than I love myself
  • Being afraid of genuinely and fearlessly being me
  • Using anxiety as a crutch as to why I cant live in my truth and speak my mind
  • Not being able to trust myself
  • Projecting my inner insecurities onto others
  • Being defensive

2019 Mantras

  •  Don’t ever let them see you sweat: People can only see what you allow them to see. This does not  mean that you can’t have a moment of weakness but just let it be a  moment and nothing more
  • Mind over matter: Everything is mental. If you have a strong mentality it will help you deal with situations and make rational decisions
  • Good vibes out and prosperity in :You get what you put out. Find the inner strength to stay positive no matter what challenges come your way

My 2019 Social Media Post, ” I am a Queen and will view myself as such. I will take accountability for all of my actions and live my life authentically and unapologetically. Happy 2019″  

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  1. Yes Girl!!! I love this I also don’t really enjoy the idea of resolutions however, I’ve never thought about them from this line of thinking. You have definitely inspired me to complete my own. It’s so easy to look into things in the context of change however, people rarely look at their traits that are reinforcing the behaviors. Once again loved this post!


  2. I love this! You’re right, I’ve decided to live by mantras this year as well. My favorite one is to be brave, I’ve spent so much of my life living in fear of rejection, and I can’t even begin to explain why!

    2019 is the year in which I start living for me and nobody else. This post speaks to me, more than you know!


  3. I love, love, love, this list! I have never been super into the resolution thing, but setting obtainable goals and finding a way to achieve them! I will also find ways to kick my negative habits and focus on ridding myself of toxic energy and bringing in light.

    Thank you for sharing!


  4. Hi,

    I loved EVERYTHING about this post. “Anti” GENIUS!

    What I felt the most was “Using anxiety as a crutch as to why I cant live in my truth and speak my mind.” Can I join you on that one LOL

    I often find myself holding back and not doing the things I really want to do because if my generalized anxiety, but no more! We can do this!

    Side Note: The beautiful queen behind you is my phone case! You are a beautiful queen as well.

    Goodluck on your Anti Resolutions (although you don’t need it!)

    Love Always,

    Christina Jane


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