One saying that we’ve all heard from our parents throughout our childhood was “ Everybody ain’t ya friend”. Meaning those people that you are trying so hard to impress and those people that you are breaking your back to look out for probably wouldn’t do the same for you. Now that i am in my adult life if i am ever unsure of a friendship or relationship I simply ask myself “would they do the same for me ?” Not because i want recognition for being a good friend but because i want to have a friend that would be as good to me as I am to them. With some friendships without a doubt I could say hands down YES they would do everything and beyond to hold me down if the situation ever presented itself. Then there are those friendships that I have to question whether or not they would. That is me answering my question without me even knowing it but everybody ain’t your friend.

This leads me into a video that recently just went viral. The video can be viewed on and it’s titled, “Folks have a girl strip for allegedly stealing a gram of weed”. So basically wants going down in this video is a group of young adults, both men and women, yelling and ultimately becoming physical with a girl because a gram of weed went missing. This apparently was a air bnb party that went left once the weed went missing. They asked the girl repeatedly to check her belongings to see if she had the weed because everyone else had already done so and once she refused they got angry. Two ladies began to physical assault her but the girl still refused. It wasn’t until they began beating up on her again that she decided to just comply. They made her strip down to her bra and thong in a room full of boys. The boys were making mean and derogatory comments as the girl was in full blown tears while taking her articles of clothing off. So are these people her friends ? She went to this party to hang out and possibly get to know these people and they all flipped the script on her quicker than quick.

You have to be so careful who you call a friend. This along with all of the other crazy stories we hear such as Kenneka Jenkins, Jamoneisha Merrit and Naomi Oni. Although each are different each of these stories are the unfortunate results of these young women putting trust and allowing the wrong people in their lives. Kenneka Jenkins was at a hotel party with some friends where she was found dead a few days later. There was and still is so much speculation about what role her friends played in this situation. Jamoneisha Merrit was the young girl who went to a friends house for a sleep over and had scolding hot water thrown on her by one of her friends while she was asleep and suffered major injuries. Naomi Oni was the woman who had acid thrown into her face by her friend while she was walking home after work, she too suffered serious injuries. These are just the worst case situations that can happen if you don’t keep the right company.

Everybody ain’t your friend. You may think someone wants the best for you but they want the worst, think they will have your back but they will be the first to throw you under the bus. We never truly know what someone’s intentions are when they come into our lives but the only thing we can do is live our best life and surround ourselves with those who want the same for us and themselves.







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